Deciding between this and the Perfect P dildos? They are completely different beasts that serve very different roles as toys. This is the girthy, heavy-as-a-bowling-ball, stretcher and impressser. The P is big in its own ways and is a closer toy experience to the 8" or other traditional dildos. This sucker is a new and exciting (and sometimes daunting or even terrifying) experience. Ready for a cock the size of a cantaloupe to be dropped into your lap with a heavy THUD and wobble? Onward, then! The Kink cocks by DJ, sizes small to this, are ones I've enjoyed for about 5 years now, and this plus the "Perfect P" are still my constant go-to toys after 2 years of ownership. It has definitely changed playtime, both solo and with others, and has changed my outlook on toys now from somewhat shy dimensions to "the girthier the better!". It didn't happen overnight, but has been a slow and surprisingly rewarding process. Beyond the usual, I mean. Orgasms. I mean orgasms. This thing is huge. Full stop. I don't think you could kill someone by hitting them in the head with it, but you could definitely give them a nice concussion and it would absolutely get their attention. It's thick and stands fine on its own even without the suction cup, but the texture is actually plushy and quite soft. You can bend it very easily and quite a bit (not quite in half, it's just too thick to fold) so it fits into (large) nooks and crannies without too much jimmying. I happen to love the texture, it's unique in my experience to the Kink line, and it means they're really gentle on your insides. Even while being stretched out by something the size of a watermelon going into something the size of a lemon. The material holds lube well, doesn't hold odours, is hard to deform (another toy wound up touching it for a few days and melted a smooth line into it, but otherwise it's been fine through boilings, rough play and quite frequently being dropped. It bounces!). It also warms up very quickly with body heat, and holds on to that for a bit, which I happen to love about it. It is easy to tear on sharp objects as the outer layers are so soft, so keep the scissors and scalpels put aside while it's in use. This is a little big (and heavy) for pegging and other harness play, but the Perfect P one step down is great for that. It's like... half as girthy. Or seems that way. If you play with condoms, you'll need to buy XL condoms, and even then it's questionable if they'll fit without tearing. Absolutely nothing I own is compatible with it, not cock rings, not harnesses unless you can remove the O-ring apparatus entirely (and it will be threatening to tip you over the entire time, if it doesn't pull the harness down completely), not sleeves or extensions. It's smooth without being impossibly slippery, and while it does slip out fairly easily, that also means it slips back in as well. How to help welcome the 10" Perfect Cock into your heart (because you'll swear it's touching it the first time you get it in as far as it will go): - Go slow. Always, until it's comfortable. Pain tells you that it's time to back off, and pushing through only ends in tears and fissures that mean you won't be playing for a few weeks or worse. There's no rush, and once it's easy, it will stay easy even after extended breaks. - Warm up with something soft and smaller first. You want to be not only more accommodating, but relaxed and enjoying yourself. You may need to cool down too (literally, something that's been in the fridge or freezer isn't a bad idea afterwards), so if you find you can't play with it for very long, that's totally normal. It'll increase over time. - Lube, lube, lube. This should also be advice #1, 2, 4 and 5. Lube. This material especially can get tacky, and it's not at all unusual to need to re-apply lube once or twice in a session. But once a water-based lube is applied, it becomes so very slippery and easy to squeeze into tight places. The balls are a great handle. No silicone lubes, please, they will damage it. Fun fact, most lubricated condoms use a combination water-and-silicone lube, so be careful with them and your toys! Touching other DJ sil-a-gel products is generally fine, but honestly it should probably be stored by itself. Crossing swords with other toys can result in both of them disintegrating, and you paid a bunch for this. Treat it well, and it will return the favour. I honestly have not been tempted to try the 12". This toy is an absolute beast, and while it's asking for a fairly committed relationship, the payoffs are definitely worth it. I mean I always thought Beauty and The Beast's Beast should have stayed the way he was at the end of the story, wasn't it about loving people as they are? Love this for what it is, accepting its strengths and its faults, and it will change your heart. Or at least, your orifices. (*this review is a congregate of anecdotal data from several people, whom own a wide variety of body parts, and feel the review is accurate for all of those different parts. They've used or had this toy used on them in a variety of ways. No concussions were caused in the making of this review, even if it was REALLY TEMPTING).